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Why I dislike competition?

 







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Life is one of big contest or competition . Everything in life is on other side of competition. Whether it is winning lottery, buying a new house, marrying a beautiful lady  or applying for a job. You have to compete hundred of applications and people to get your dream house, lady, and job. 


There is nothing wrong with competition. It separates best out of rest. It gives an opportunity for strongest, most talented to stand out of crowd. 


The problem arise from negative aspect of competition .It makes things worse than better. Here are some reasons why I dislike competition. 


No one likes competition except winner


Unhappiness in life 

Comparison is thief of joy 

The comparison trap keeps us away from happiness because we think we have to get more and achieve more than that person. 

It is like chasing horizon , Keep moving on. When you achieve your target your mind direct to  another target ,struggle and you use your full potential to complete it and that never ends .


This mind set would not allow you to be happy because you will not satisfied with your efforts, because your mind is  is waiting and searching for other big target and struggle.


It causes burn out ,stress and anxiety and ultimately we lose interest in that thing. The solution is simple whenever you have to compare yourself compare with lower one.


For example if you are from middle class, compare yourself with lower class ,it will give you satisfaction and you will also enjoy your efforts also. 

You can't reach your potential 

Whenever you are in competition you look for others what they are doing, if they are struggling , you start struggling , if they are at rest you crave out rest. 


With this minds are you can't reach your full potential because you are dependent for motivation on other people.


Moreover competition leads to sameness  because we are all directing in same direction with same effort. 


You become the person you fight with the most 


Jealousy 

Jealousy is like undergarment. We all have woren it under multiple layers of our soul but no one is ready to accept it.

 Comparison or competition fuels it. Comparison for jealousy is like putting fire on gasoline. 


Jealousy weekens your Bond with people and friends. They consider you their enemy and they behave in a rough way with you. 


If you want enemies excel your friends, if you want friends, let friends excel you.


Conclusion 

Comparison is easiest but worst way to measure ourself. It cause more harm than good. Instead of comparing yourself with other people we should compare ourself with ourselves and observe what you were yesterday and what you are today. 


If you want to live happy life and full filling in life then adopt this formula that u vs u and me versus me. 


The only person you have to compare is 

to compare you with yourself in past and today.

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