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Loneliness has bad reputation. If you are someone who lives alone, sits alone you will be considered unreliable, wierdo, psycho or person who Lacks communication and expressive skills
My friend shared me quote that
The person who lives alone is either a beast or a God .
There is also a most famous quote that is discussed about loneliness and it is of Dr Vivek Murthy .
"Loneliness and weak social connections are associated with a reduction in lifespan similar to that caused by smoking 15 cigarettes a day”.
Does loneliness is so much bad ?
The answer is big no. Before moving ahead I would like to clear the difference between being alone and lonely .
Lonely me longing , means that you are missing something or some person in your life while alone means you are with yourself and you are free from missing other people in your life.
We all have been painted a negative image about loneliness through society , drama ,films that's why we hate loneliness.
When you open your social media apps you see the picture of cute friends in groups who are eating food together ,are going to some place , after watching those photos you feel that you are left behind out or,there is something missing in you that you are living alone.
I believe loneliness is not a curse . The real problem is managing loneliness .We are bad at managing loneliness . This bad managing creates mental issues, stress and anxiety and makes us vulnerable to different psychiatric disorders.
Here are some ways you can turn loneliness into blessing and can get much things out of it
Use loneliness to get creative ideas
How do the greatest authors philosophers come up with ideas ?
The most difficult question to answer because happiness, creativity, satisfaction are a questions of a subjective will being and there is a fixed scale for all of them for every person and it makes difficult to measure it.
But after reading about great philosopher's، thinker's and religious people I came to know that the most of them considered their source of creativity to loneliness.
As Nikola Tesla once said
Be alone that is a secret of invention ,be alone when ideas are born.
Loneliness serve as fertile ground for ideas it helps to connect your ideas, it stimulates parasympathetic system and put you in a state where you get more ideas.
I do the same for getting creative ideas when I am feeling stuck at article I seek loneliness and it helps me to get tons of ideas and you can also do the same.
If you are alone you can use this time to do some creative work like posting a video on social media apps or write something to post .
Try to Know yourself in loneliness
I am just asking a simple question to you
Describe yourself who are you besides your profession ?
I am sure that 90% of people will not be able to describe themselves. They wouldn't be aware about their strength weakness, positive and negative points.
Most of life problems and mistakes stem due to over estimation or under estimation of our potential ,strength positive and negative points.
When you are alone observe your life thoroughly , judge and measure your potential, strength and weakness through daily, weekly moments of life it will help you to get whole picture of you.
Knowing yourself is beginning of wisdom
I do same whenever I am alone I reflect on my life short and big, important and non important moments and try to know about my strength weakness positive and negative points to better my life decision and choices .
Loneliness saves you from herd mentality
When you are in a group you have to live as per rules of group. you have to smile when your group is smiling, you wear that suits that matches your group people ,you make those choices which are relevant to your group.
This creates a gap between your projected image and your true self. Larger the gap the larger would be your life filled with insecurity , anxiety is and depression.
The solution of this lies in being alone when you are alone you live your life as per rules ,you don't care about other people , you smile when you feel comfortable, you wear suits that your soul enjoys and you meet those people that are relevant to you.
Learn skills
We are living in age of skill. Skills brings value and value brings money .That's why the people with the higher skills make more money than people who are bad or low at skills level.
You can use your loneliness to develop skill . Loneliness is amazing space to make you best version of yourself.
You can use your loneliness to learn new skills such as coding, marketing ,communication writing etc and it would help you to live a meaningful and purposeful life and you will also enjoy that time.
Conclusion
Loneliness is not a bad thing. The real problem is managing loneliness .We are bad at managing loneliness that's why we consider it as a curse if you man
age to use it positively it can be game changing for you.
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